Husbands, Love Your Wives
By Clarence Andrews
Husbands love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her. Ephesians 5:25
Love your wives just as Christ first loved the church, but Christ did more than love the church, he sacrificed his life for her. When the Bible speaks of the church it is referring to us, the Christians who make up the church, and because of the love Christ had for us, he gave up his life. This is how men are to love their wives, with an unselfish love, and with a heart that’s ready to sacrifice ones own needs and desires for his wife. The word of God also says, “This is the way married men ought to love their wives, as they do their own bodies. The married man who loves his wife is really loving himself.” Ephesians 5:28. Every man loves his own body, don’t you feed it when it’s hungry, you rest it when it’s tired; and you bath when it’s dirty. I have not seen too many people who hate their own body, because you try to keep it warm when it’s cold, and try to keep cool when it’s hot. If you look in God’s word it will tell you the same, because it is written, “For no one has ever hated his own body, but he nourishes and tenderly cares for it, as Christ does the church.” Ephesians 5:29. The way a man cares and provides for his own body, in the same manner should he do for his wife. Christ has already demonstrated how a man should love his wife, and it’s being demonstrated every day of your life. Here’s an example, while you are praying, what do you want God to do? You want him to listen to you, and when your wife is talking to you, what does she want you to do? She wants you to listen to her. God is listening to your prayer because you need him to hear you, and your wife needs you to listen, so you can hear her. Christ is demonstrating his love for you, and you in return; must demonstrate that love to your wife. It’s important that a man love his wife, because again we read in Colossians 3:19, “Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.” The one factor about marriage is, a husband and a wife sometimes become common to each other. Over a period of time in the marriage men stop seeing their wives as that special and fragile little flower they once admired. Husbands began to speak harshly to their wives, and not caring if they wound their hearts by what they say; and verbal abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. This is important for a man to know, Christ is the head of the church, and likewise, a man is the head of his household. You must treat your wife with respect, and honor her. Christ is our head, and when he deals with us, it’s never in a harsh manner. The spirit of God is never going to yell at you, or poke at you about anything you may have done wrong. When God’s spirit speaks to us it will always be in a gentle manner, a soft voice like a breeze. Here is an awful truth; most men do not know how to love their wives. Husbands, your wives are your other half, she is that gentle side of you, and the expressive side that you cannot always show. She is the one who makes apologies for you when you wont, and she also make excuses for you when you are neglectful. She became the mother of your children, and your nurse whenever you are sick, but foremost, she is your wife. And the word of God says, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD.” Proverbs 18:22. A wife is that good thing from the Lord, so, if have you have not been treating her like she is a good thing, then you need to start doing so. Start kissing her in the morning when you awake, hug and kiss her before leaving for work, call her at her job, and tell her, I love you, and once in awhile bring her some flowers home when you leave work. There are so many things you can do to express how you feel about her, and what she means to you. Husbands remember this, women want to be reminded that they are loved and appreciated.